Tips to Talk About the News

Tips to talk by Tara Grayless

How to Talk About the News With Kids

🚨 This has been a hard week. Talking to kids about their feelings and school shootings can be a difficult and sensitive topic. 🚨


If you are like me, I am worried about what my little one might have heard at school this week. Regardless if your child hears something, they will most likely feel something. Teachers feeling sad or even crying is normal, and our kids might not know the why, but they can feel their sadness. 💔


Here are some tips to help during these challenging conversations.

1. Check in: Ask how their day was and how they’re feeling. Ask open-ended questions to encourage conversation. This is important because not talking about their feelings can lead to more worry and confusion.

2. Be honest and open: Let their questions be your guide as to how much information to provide. Be truthful, but remember that younger kids don’t need all the details, while older kids may need a more in-depth conversation.

3. Validate their emotions: Let your child know that their feelings are important and valid. You can say things like, “I understand that you’re scared,” or “It’s okay to feel upset.” Encourage your child to express their feelings.

4. Focus on safety measures: Assure your child that schools have safety measures in place to protect them. Explain what these safety measures are, such as locked doors, security cameras, and emergency drills.

5. Emphasize empathy and kindness: Encourage your child to be kind to others and to look out for those who may be struggling. Remind them that they have the power to make a positive impact on others.

6. Limit exposure to news: Be mindful of how much news coverage your child is exposed to. Just because they are in another room does not mean they are not overhearing.

7. Seek professional help: If your child is having difficulty coping with their emotions or the news of a school shooting, consider seeking help from a mental health professional.


Remember, it’s important to have ongoing conversations with children about their feelings and concerns. By being open and honest, you can help them navigate difficult emotions and feel supported during these very challenging times.