Lockdown Drills and Kids: Why the Conversation Matters

As parents, caregivers, and educators, there are few conversations more heartbreaking—or more necessary—than talking to kids about lockdown drills and school shootings. It’s a reality we wish we didn’t have to face—but tragically, it’s part of the world our children are growing up in.

📊 Why now? In the 2022–2023 school year, over 95% of U.S. public schools conducted lockdown drills (National Center for Education Statistics). That means nearly every child will experience one—whether parents feel ready to talk about it or not.

So the real question is: Do we have the conversation—or try to shield them?

Our answer: We talk. Calmly, honestly, and in an age-appropriate way. Because when we don’t, kids are left to fill in the blanks with fear, misinformation, or silence.

Why These Conversations Matter

🧠 Kids are already aware. Even young ones hear about drills or whisperings on the playground. Pretending otherwise won’t protect them—but a loving, calm conversation can.

❤️ Talking builds emotional safety. Kids need to know they aren’t alone with their worries. When we give space to talk, they build trust and process fear in healthier ways. (Need help? Our Feelings Journal guides kids in naming and working through big emotions.)

🛠️ You can provide tools. Instead of feeling powerless, kids can feel prepared and supported—knowing what to do, who to talk to, and how to ask for help.

Quick Script to Get Started

For ages 6–8:
“Sometimes schools practice safety drills, just like fire drills. These are to help keep everyone safe. How do you feel when you do those drills?”

For ages 9–12:
“You might’ve heard about lockdown drill from friends. What do you know about them? How does it make you feel? Do you know why we have these type of drills?”

👉 Tip: Ask, listen, reassure. Keep it short and calm. Let kids know that grown-ups are working hard to keep them safe.

Conversation Prompts by Age

Ages 6–8

“What do you think about when your class does a lockdown drill?”
“Who helps you feel safe when you’re scared?”
“If something felt wrong, what’s one thing you could do?”

Ages 9–12

“What do you think your school does to keep students safe?”
“Do you feel clear on what to do in an emergency?”
“Who could you talk to if you felt nervous at school?”

You’re Not Alone

These talks are hard. You won’t have every answer—and that’s okay. Showing up, listening, and being steady matters more than being perfect.

At Bright Littles, we believe that when we talk with courage and compassion, we prepare kids not just for scary situations—but for life. Together, we can raise thoughtful, brave, and emotionally resilient kids. 💛

We’re here with you—every step of the way!

Xo TM Founder and Mama