Talking Tips: Is Santa Real?
Talking Tips for Parents: Is Santa Real?
The holiday season brings the sparkle of lights, the scent of cookies in the air, and one big question kids often ask: Is Santa real?
Let's face it: kids are talking at school, and you (me) need to be ready!
Here's how to approach this topic with a sprinkle of fun and a dash of holiday spirit.
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Start by Asking: "What Do You Think?"
Before diving in, ask your child what they believe about Santa. Their answer can guide the conversation. You might be surprised to hear their thoughts, whether they're still all-in on the magic of the North Pole or starting to piece things together. My daughter has asked in the past, and I could tell from her all-true-believer answer that she was not ready.
"That's a great question! Do you think Santa is real?"
Keeping the tone light gives you insight into how much (or little) they know.
Share the Story of St. Nicholas
When your child is ready, introduce them to the real-life figure who inspired Santa Claus—St. Nicholas.
St. Nicholas was a kind and generous man who lived long ago. He loved to surprise kids who only had a little with gifts. His acts of kindness became legendary and inspired the idea of Santa we celebrate today. This story helps kids understand that Santa's roots are grounded in real, selfless acts of love.
Fun Fact: Did you know St. Nicholas once threw gold coins into stockings hanging by the fire? That's where the tradition of stockings comes from!
Explain the Spirit of Christmas
The spirit of Christmas is very real. It's about kindness, generosity, and spreading joy—just like St. Nicholas did. "When we give gifts, share hugs, or help others during the holidays, we keep the spirit of Santa alive. Santa isn't just one person; he's an idea! Every time we do something kind, like donating toys or baking cookies for a neighbor, we're being like Santa."
How to Meet Them in Their Feelings
We don't know how our kids will feel, so being ready for BIG emotions is important. Let them know it's okay to be sad, confused, or even a little angry. "I can see that this has made you feel upset. It's okay to feel this way—it's a big thing to think about. I felt the same way when I found out when I was little. (Share your experience). It's hard, isn't it?"
Our Feelings Journal is a wonderful tool to connect with your child and support them in expressing how they feel.
Involve Them in the Magic
Share the idea of Santa that they know they are surprised. Do you want to be a part of the magic? Is there anyone you want to surprise this year?
Ideas:
- Let them help wrap presents for siblings or friends, signing "From Santa."
- Plan a "Surprise Santa" act of kindness, like leaving cookies on a neighbor's doorstep.
Keep the Joy Alive
Remind them (us) that the joy of Christmas doesn't depend on believing in Santa—it comes from being together, creating memories, spreading kindness, and sharing love with others. "Whether you believe in Santa or not, Christmas is always magical because we make it magical!"
Acts of Kindness in the Community
A big piece of the Santa puzzle is random acts of kindness for strangers and finding ways as a family to take care of your community, from volunteering at an animal shelter or soup kitchen to filling a Christmas list or supporting your local food bank. The holidays are an excellent opportunity to show your child the beauty of giving back.
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Remember: The Santa conversation doesn't have to mean the end of holiday magic—it's an opportunity to deepen your child's understanding of the season's true meaning and start new traditions. With kindness and generosity, you can keep the spirit of Christmas alive in your family for years to come.
What are your favorite ways to spread the spirit of Santa? Share your ideas in the comments below!