Giving our kids the grace and space to take chances will help them with confidence and independence.
How many times have you said "be careful" to your kids? Me too! I did not even realize how often I say it; it had become an auto-response.
I have worked hard to correct myself and give helpful facts to allow her to navigate the risk on her own.
Saying "Be Careful" really isn't giving her any valuable information to navigate the risk for herself and learn. It can actually create fear and anxiety, which is more our fear and anxiety than theirs.
What can we say instead?
- Do you see...the wall?
- Try moving ... your foot to the left.
- Do you feel ... balanced?
- Are you feeling... safe, scared, or
- What do you think will happen if....
Giving our kids the grace and space to take chances will help them with confidence and independence. Getting out of their comfort zone will bring new opportunities, growth, and develop their problem-solving skills.
Taking chances builds resilience. They will not always succeed, which can be frustrating, but it is also an opportunity for them to learn how to bounce back from setbacks and try again.
Taking chances can be fun and rewarding! When children take chances and try new things, they may discover new passions and interests and have fun in the process. This can lead to a sense of accomplishment and pride, which can boost their self-esteem and confidence.
Lastly, when they fall down, you will be there for them! Letting our kids know that no matter what, we'll be there when they fall to help them get back up and try again, will help them feel confident enough to GO FOR IT!!!