💛 This is the kind of language I use with my own daughter. Every family has its own way of talking about hard things, so please take what feels right and make it your own. The most important thing is that our kids know we are listening, loving, and keeping them safe.

Like so many of you, I feel hit in the gut today. School has barely started—we’re not even two weeks into the new year—and already we are faced with another senseless tragedy.

Parenting right now can feel like living in the twilight zone. But I beg you—please, don’t let yourself go numb. Our kids need us more than ever. They need us to fight with everything we have.

Find one thing—just one—to take action on. Call your representative. Volunteer at a local food bank. Organize a book drive. Show up for your community.

Now is the time for all of us to come together, to push back against hopelessness, and to fight for a better, safer world for our kids.

👉 To support you, we’ve created two scripts—one for ages 6–9 and one for ages 10–12—to help guide you through these difficult conversations.

Script for Younger Kids (Ages 6–9)

Tip for Grown-Ups: Keep language simple, concrete, and calm. Use examples they understand and offer lots of reassurance.

Start the Conversation

“Something sad happened at a school in Minneapolis today. A person hurt people with a weapon. Helpers like doctors, teachers, and police are working hard to keep kids and families safe.”

Reassure Safety

“You are safe here with me. Your school and teachers practice safety plans—just like fire drills—so they know what to do to keep you safe. Grown-ups all around you—your parents, teachers, neighbors—are here to protect you.”

Living Nearby

“Because it happened close to where we live, it might feel scarier. It’s normal to feel worried. Remember, lots of helpers in our community are working every day to keep schools safe.”

Talk About Feelings

“It’s okay to feel sad, mad, or scared. Big feelings happen when scary things happen. You can always talk to me, draw a picture, or just snuggle if you don’t want to use words right now.”

Look for Helpers

“When bad things happen, there are always helpers. Can you think of helpers at your school—like teachers, the nurse, or even friends—who make you feel safe?”

Conversation Starters

• “What makes you feel safe at school?”
• “Who would you go to if you ever felt scared at school?”
• “Can you think of a time when you were a helper to a friend?”
• “Would you like to draw a picture or make a card to help the kids in Minneapolis feel cared for?”

Remember

“You are safe. You are not alone. I’m always here to listen and keep you safe.”

Script for Tweens (Ages 10–12)

Tip for Grown-Ups: Tweens may know more from news, social media, or peers. Use clear, honest language. Validate their feelings and invite deeper questions.

Start the Conversation

“I want to talk with you about something difficult that happened today in Minneapolis. A person used a gun at a school, and some people were hurt. Many helpers—teachers, police, doctors—are working right now to support families and the community.”

Reassure Safety

“I know hearing about this might make you wonder if it could happen at your school. Schools are very safe places. Teachers and leaders practice safety drills and have plans to keep students safe. I’m here to go over those plans with you if that would help you feel calmer.”

Living Nearby

“Because this happened close to where we live, it might feel extra real and scary. It’s okay to feel worried. You’re not alone—lots of kids and parents feel this way. What helps me feel calmer is remembering how many adults are working every day to protect schools.”

Talk About Feelings

“It’s normal to feel sadness, anger, confusion, or fear when you hear about something like this. You can always talk to me about what’s on your mind, and I’ll listen without judgment. If you don’t feel like talking right away, that’s okay too—we can check in later.”

Look for Helpers

“Even in the worst moments, there are always helpers. Can you think of who the helpers are at your school?”

Conversation Starters

• “What questions do you have about what happened?”
  
• “How do you think schools can help kids feel safer?”
• “Would it help if we made our own family safety plan?”
• “Would you like to write a note, make a drawing, or create something to show support and kindness for the kids in Minneapolis who are going through a really hard time?”

Remember

“You are safe. You are surrounded by people who love you and want to protect you. However you’re feeling right now is valid—and you don’t have to carry it alone.”

👉 If you or a loved one is struggling after this tragedy and need support, please know you are not alone.

• You can dial 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the U.S. to talk to someone right away.

• For children and teens, the Crisis Text Line is available—just text HELLO to 741741.

• Reaching out to a trusted friend, family member, school counselor, or mental health professional can make all the difference.